Wednesday, September 19, 2012

No Time to Talk


Nine.

The number of sentences Doc H and I have exchanged since Sunday evening. Mind you, it's now Tuesday. 

Marital brawl?

No.

Cases. Complicated cases. Early start cases. Long cases.  Late start cases. Cases.

Nine sentences. Barely enough to qualify as a conversation.

"What are you doing today," he asked me as I was still trying to sleep, and he was threading his belt through the belt loops of his slacks.

"I don't know." I don't know anything at 5:30am.

I laid there with my eyes closed for a few seconds, then it came to me. I'm trying to build the website.

"Did you get my text yesterday about the password? I need to access the website."

"No. I was in OR all day."

"What is it? I need it."

"I'll have to look it up. . . I don't know."

Don't we make a smart pair?

I blame it on the ungodly hour.





15 comments:

  1. I hear you sister! At least your kids are grown and can feed themselves and groom themselves. We are having one of those weeks (hubs spent 36 straight hours in the OR minus a 4 hour hiatus doing floor work) over here -- i'm about to pop and my preschooler is getting potty trained and the dog is beyond obnoxious. There are no words!

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  2. Don't you just hate it when your friends complain that their husband was home SO LATE last night? Late being 7pm. That's early in my book!

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    1. YES! And what pisses me off even more is that even at 7pm they dump their kids on their husband and take off to the mall, the tub for some alone time, or the grocery store for a peaceful run and they don't have to "worry" their husband's are so tired the kids are running in the street naked watching the dog get hit by a truck while I'm out being a normal young woman... and then God forbid they moan and I one up them with: well at least your husband came home, mine hasn't showered at home in days and I can't tell you the last time we went on a date or had anything resembling intimacy for lack of his physical presence and they look at me like i've got a bugger in my teeth. The surgical specialty is a unique one. No disrespect to the other professions. This week is not as terrible as last but you know... he's got the pager 'til SAturday night and we've already gotten a few ridiculous scares this evening. Praying for a peaceful week for sure!

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  3. I'm impressed you even remember the conversation at that hour. My husband learned long ago not to bother talking to me before 7 am.

    We used to have what seemed to him to be perfectly coherent conversations at ungodly doctor morning hours, but I was sound asleep and wouldn't remember anything about it.

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  4. My hubby is a full-time university student and part-time dietary aide at a long term care facility, so he works first thing in the morning (5 a.m.), goes to school all day, then comes home usually between 8 and 9 at night.

    I swear, 9-5ers have no right to complain! lol

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    1. Ugh. I remember those days... not fun... but worth it in the end!

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  5. That sounds icky. Too many hours!

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  6. Living your week this week. Tim's on call and I've barely seen or spoken to him. Sucks. Bought myself my first pair of Frye boots to compensate. I'd still rather have him.

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    1. I would go shopping, but as I walk up to the register, my mind always goes to the two college tuitions and two private school tuitions we'll be paying next year, and I put the stuff back. :(

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  7. Oh yes, we have had weeks like that too. Always working, always running. Has it always been like this for many?

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    1. I don't mind it here and there... you know, small sporadic doses. However, it's seems to be becoming our new norm and I don't like it.

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  8. I liked this entry about the nine sentence conversations that you and your hubby had lol...I have those exact convos with my DocB (boyfriend)

    Working. Just woke up..etc haha..

    I thought about how our conversations are not very detailed and then I seen this blog entry..loved it! I'm still struggling with the whole not being able to spend quality time together but I've been reading blogs and medical marriage info to try and get a perspective as I know he is doing the best he can. I really want to be supportive and try to enjoy the time we do have together.

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  9. Loved the nine sentence entry! lol. I have the same convos with my DocB ( boyfriend). I had thought about how short and basic our conversations are and then I seen your blog entry. Our conversations sound similar.

    Working. Just woke up. Working on Research. etc

    Im still struggling with the medical relationship as I think I still have expectations of quality time like a typical relationship but medical partnerships are different. I have been trying to work on that by reading doctors wives blogs and books. I do want to be supportive as I do care for him and I know he is doing the best he can right now.

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