There are plenty of negatives of divorce and I'm pretty sure they are all well documented, here, in this blog, and plenty of other places in the blog-o-sphere.
So today, I'm here to tell you of one of the beauties of divorce...
Nights with no children.
Let your imagine roll with that for a moment.
When the kids are young, you have a court ordered visitation schedule which rips your children from you for days as they go live their life with their other parent. It is heart breaking, frustrating, and horrible.
Yet, as time passes, you acclimate to the time alone. You use that time to take care of personal and professional business, so you can purely focus the on the kids when they are in your home. And, when and if you re-marry, as I have done, you have nights to yourselves when you can foster your relationship.
Admittedly, connecting with your spouse with kids clinging to your legs or teens mulling around the halls late into the night is challenging. The older the kids get, nighttime sexy time gets.... well.... just awkward.
Who wants to experience this...
You're afraid the big kids will hear you in the throws, which would lead them exercising their gag reflexes and then a bout of projectile vomiting. I don't care who you are or how sexy you think you are. Your kids' vomit kills the moment.
So, now, Doc H and I find ourselves with kids in the house pretty much every single night of the year. We're missing our nights to ourselves.
Once upon a time, we would make out or perhaps laugh our way into foreplay.
Nowadays, the phrase, "Lock the door" IS foreplay.