Thursday, May 2, 2013

Break Up Etiquette for Teens/Young Adults

In light of the recent break up of D2 and the Beau Hunk, I have come to realize today's teens and young adults have lost the fine art of "breaking up".

In an effort to educate, I have compiled a list of how break ups should, or should not be handled.

Be honest. Break ups do not happen over silly issues. A silly issue may be the proverbial, "straw that broke the camel's back", but not the truthful reason. 
Don't be crass. Name calling is not necessary -- at any time -- in any relationship. The "C" word is NEVER acceptable. 
Don't be petty. Asking for the return of gifted items is tacky. Exactly what are you going to do with a used designer purse? Give it to your next girlfriend? 
Be thankful when your now ex-girlfriend obliges your break up request and distances herself from you. 
Call off the dogs. Enlisting your batshit, crazy mother to harass and threaten your ex-girlfriend via text is not okay. Your mother threatening to sic her burly, motorcycling, pot-smoking boyfriend on your now-ex is criminal.  
Don't retaliate via social media. Seriously? Have you not read the news lately? It's putting young people in their early graves, and leaves the other sharing a cell with a sexually deprived orangutan named Big Boner. 
BEWARE! Your ex's parents should never have to get involved. However, if we feel our child's safety is in danger, we will. We bring along our own gang... the kind with badges... I'm not talking Girl Scouts, either.  
Stand behind your decision. No back and forths. If you break it off, don't change your mind a week later. 
No guilt trips. Just because a promise was made, such as to "wait for your return from the military", does not give you cart blanche to behave like a cad, treat someone disrespectfully, and yet point the finger at the broken promise. 
Once you've said your peace, abide her wishes. If she wants to disconnect... Disconnect!
Move on. It's over.

{Click here for the next installment of the Beau Hunk saga. Yes, there is more} 





17 comments:

  1. Yikes! Hope the batshit crazy mother harassing D2 was just hypothetical. And yes, all relationships have their costs. Unless it's an engagement ring, he's probably not getting it back. Even then, he might have to fight for it in court!


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    1. Isn't the general rule of thumb if the guy breaks it off she keeps the ring? If she breaks it off she returns it?

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    2. This is precisely what the etiquette books say.

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  2. Ugh, I hope a lot of this is general advice and NOT what happened to D2. I second whomever suggested it-does Eagle Scout have an older brother?

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    1. Hope all you want... and no, Eagle Scout does not have an available brother. Too bad.

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  3. Are there different rules for older adults?

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    1. Oh, yes! LONGER, much, much LONGER list which includes all the "P"s....
      Property
      Pets
      and Parenting! :(

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    2. I see what you`re talking about...unfortunately, you`re right :-( BTW thank you for your reply :-)

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  4. Real Class Act...there's a C-word for you! =)

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  5. Ummmm, reason #84 why breaking up with Beau Hunk was a good idea. Hopefully, this will at least keep D2 from thinking about going back.

    Abigail

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  6. Young adult breakups are the most dramatic, must be all those hormones. Now for the mother, that's another type of crazy I haven't run across yet. Your daughter is going to be a better woman for this experience! Let's hope in concludes quickly.

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  7. This is one of those situations where D2 will look back and realize her parents were right all along. It make take her awhile to admit it, but she'll see it. What a crazy time for you all, hopefully this will help burn it into her brain that he is NOT a catch and moving on is the best decision for her. Sadly it seems he's learned his behavior from his mother. Good Lord!!

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  8. Holy crap! Beau Hunk had a psycho mom.

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  9. I may need to print this out and pass it on to a few adults I know, too....

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  10. Although it is terribly tacky, if he wants back the gifts, I would say give them back. Let him figure out what he was really going to do with a used purse. Those 'things' are all haunted anyway.

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  11. *standing ovation*
    Now, if only they all would actually abide by these rules.

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  12. It’s true due to innovative technologies nowadays; breaking up is at its untraditional mode. Others have it passed thru text messages or emails. I think this shouldn’t be because breaking up should be fair and handled humanely. Face it or it will haunt you forever. Be honest and if possible continue the friendship. You will never know, love may take its “U” turn.

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